Where do I end, and where does someone else begin? Many who struggle with people pleasing often struggle with understanding healthy boundaries. This is a struggle for co-dependents or people-pleasers because they were taught from a young age to take on the needs and cares of everyone around them at the expense of themselves. It’s not just denying oneself, it’s […]
“Why don’t you just talk to them?” “I’m sure you just misunderstood them. You’ll work it out.” “Well, you must have done something wrong, otherwise that person wouldn’t have done that to you.” Do any of these responses sound familiar? To those who have dealt with narcissistic abuse, you’ve probably heard these responses when you’ve tried to get advice or […]
“Well, at least you weren’t physically abused.” For decades, we’ve heard this sentence used to invalidate those who experienced forms of emotional, verbal, or other forms of psychological abuse. This sentence told victims of abuse, “You didn’t really have it that bad if you weren’t hit”. It invalidated true abuse victims’ experiences. Any form of abuse is abuse. While physical […]