Creating Healthy Dialogue on Difficult Topics

It was a few short days after the killing of George Floyd at the hands of a police officer when our young neighbor approached me.

“I’m angry,” he said. “I have some things I’d like to talk to your husband about if he’s available.”

Knowing that my husband was a police officer, I was impressed by this young man’s initiative to come over and have an in-person conversation.

Our family had continued to be stressed and taxed by the pressure and attack on police that ensued after the horrible incident. The attack on the character of all law enforcement seemed to quickly permeate through our nation.

Fear quickly gripped our household. I wish I could say I’ve been handling it well, but it’s been an immense struggle on top of COVID-19. I have had to turn over my anxiety daily to God and seek help for our family in these difficult times.

I know my husband is in this profession to make a positive change and keep the community safe, but it’s an extremely demanding career. I wish more people would willingly sit down and talk with an officer or their family to learn about the stresses and dynamics of the job.

And our neighbor did just that.

SAYING “STOP” TO TOXIC THINKING

My thoughts were skewed in how I viewed myself. I was still looking for outward affirmation. Not only that, I was looking for immediate confirmation from others that this was what I was supposed to be doing.

But God wanted to do something greater in that time. He began weeding out the toxic thoughts by revealing the lies I was clinging to for validation.

In this world, we are told that our value is based on how we look, what we wear, how successful we are, how we compare to others, and what others think of us.

The enemy is constantly after our identity.

How Will We Choose To Deal With Uncertainty?

We had no explanation for “why” this was happening, and we didn’t know “when” it would end. Even if we had the answers to those questions, I don’t know that they would suffice. The answers would only bring a temporary and false peace for the time. We’ve had to choose to move beyond the “why” and “when” questions, and ask the important question: How will we choose to deal with this uncertainty?