Why People don’t Talk about their Trauma
**This is a re-blog, originally posted from the “Don’t Lose Hope” site.
I found this piece so insightful as to why talking about trauma with others is difficult. For me, the biggest issue has always been negative feedback. It’s been most hurtful when I’ve shared my trauma with someone I care about, and that person is more set on giving excuses for why it happened or sharing their experience which doesn’t relate to mine at all. It made me feel invisible.
Thankfully, the Lord worked through that time of sharing and helped me learn discernment in who I can share with. I now have some terrific people in my life who know my story, have gladly listened, and have supported me in my healing decisions.
I’ve learned that if someone doesn’t understand my trauma or brushes it aside, to not take it personally. This was very hard initially when I was in a vulnerable place and just trying to share my story, as I felt I had no one who would listen. Thankfully over time, through counseling, group sessions at my church, and finding friends who would listen, God was healing me. I continually stayed in God’s Word by reading through the Psalms. It was truly life-giving every morning when I felt so alone.
Please read on to understand why talking about trauma can be so difficult, and how we can all be better listeners and supporters to others sharing their stories.
There are things that nobody talks about. There are things that are absolutely taboo. So when you experience these things yourself, you feel isolated. Completely alone. Judged. Ostracized. Abandoned in your pain. And that is a terrible place to be. Here’s how you feel when this happens to you – You feel as if you’re […]Why People don’t Talk about their Trauma (Follow link to read more)